Things I’d Tell My 18 and 24-Year-Old Self
Have something for yourself. Don’t give all you have and all you are to someone else. Find a passion or a career and foster it. Keep it for yourself, in some way. You can still have love and marriage and family, but don’t subjugate your own self in the interests of someone else, or even for a family. You will regret it to varying degrees over your lifetime, even if you aren’t willing to admit that regret to yourself.
Nobody has it all. Women I know who are stay at home moms regret not having careers. Women I know who have rewarding careers but no family, no husband or kids, regret not having them. And women I know who have careers and families often feel like they are failing everything, because they can’t give 100% of themselves to anything.
Some days will be better than others. Some years will be better than others. Sometimes you’ll win; sometimes you will be crushed by the weight of your failures and your losses and your disappointments.It’s like that for all of us, but on the whole, you’ll have more ups than downs.
You’ll never look as good as you do right now. Chances are you won’t be thinner or taller, and you definitely won’t be younger than you are today. STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP! You are young and beautiful, so smile and enjoy the hell out of your life!
Make bad choices sometimes. That’s where some of the best stories come from.
Write shit down. You’ll forget even the best stuff.
Admit and accept your faults and shortcomings. Try to overcome them, but always admit and own up to your mistakes. Be genuine.
Take the road trip. Travel wherever you can, whenever you can. Be spontaneous. Experience as much as you can. There will come a time when you won’t have the freedom you do now, so embrace it and wring out as much from that freedom as you can. You’ll be sorry later if you don’t…
Be a good and loyal friend. You don’t have to have a lot of close friends, but always be there for the select few you keep close to your heart. They will help you through all of the worst times, and celebrate along side of you through all of the best times. You’ll be better because of those friendships.
Love your mom and be good to her — she loves you and only wants all the best things for you.